Why You’re Still Suffering — Even Though You’re a “Giver” (And What to Do About It)
Back in beautiful Adelaide 🌿, I just wrapped up a powerful Inner Circle session…on Giving.
If you feel like you give a lot—your time, your energy, your love—but still end up drained, frustrated, or unseen, you might be wondering why. There’s a hidden pattern behind this struggle, and it’s not what you think.
Here are the two reasons givers suffer—and how to transform your giving.
1. You’re Giving from a Place of Subtle Selfishness
Yes, really. Not malicious selfishness, but subtle emotional expectation.
When you give hoping for validation, love, or appreciation, and it doesn’t come back the way you imagined, it hurts.
Why? Because the giving wasn’t truly free—it was a quiet transaction.
True giving comes from fullness, not expectation. When your giving is free, it nourishes both you and others. Giving without burnout starts here.
2. You Lack Discernment
Sometimes, giving too much or for too long can actually disempower both you and the other person.
Ask yourself before giving:
👉 Is this empowering the other person?
👉 Or am I enabling them—and disempowering myself?
Not all giving is good. Sometimes it’s just self-abandonment in disguise.
💡 When you give with clarity and discernment, your giving becomes powerful. It uplifts you AND others.
How to Give in a Way That Feeds You
Check your intention. Are you giving freely—or hoping for something in return?
Set healthy boundaries. Learn to say no without guilt.
Give from abundance. When your cup is full, your giving truly nourishes.
✨ When you give from fullness, with clarity and discernment, your giving becomes transformative and empowering.
Giving isn’t the problem. How you give is. Reflect on your intentions, adjust your approach, and watch the magic unfold.
Love & Healing
Manna Abraham