You don’t have to be happy.
Let me share why.
Long ago, I read something that stayed with me. It said that the inner stillness you experience—both in good times and in turbulent times—is the presence of spirit… or God… or whatever name feels right to you.
Not excitement.
Not positivity.
Stillness.
Roy Masters, who ran one of the longest-running counseling shows in talk radio history, spoke about this often. He said you don’t have to chase positive emotions. He even went as far as saying you don’t need emotions to be human.
What you need… is stillness.
That can sound strange at first. Because we’re taught that being human means feeling everything intensely. But stillness isn’t numbness. It’s not suppression. It’s something deeper—something underneath emotion.
When you’re still, emotions don’t disappear.
They just lose their power to control you.
Joy doesn’t inflate the ego.
Pain doesn’t collapse the self.
Anger arises, but it doesn’t hijack.
Fear shows up, but it’s seen.
Stillness doesn’t depend on circumstances.
It’s there when life is good.
It’s there when life is falling apart.
And that’s why you don’t have to be happy.
Happiness comes and goes.
Stillness remains.
You don’t have to force a smile.
You don’t have to stay positive.
You don’t have to chase a feeling.
You just have to notice what’s already here—quiet, steady, watching.
That’s where freedom is.
This is exactly what we work with inside EMPR, not inner child work,
but resolving identity-based emotion memory patterns
that silently run your reactions, behaviours, and life outcomes.
Resolve your inner conflicts
Resolve interpersonal conflicts
Understand how emotion memory patterns are formed
Learn how self-sabotage actually works
Experience what it feels like when an identity is resolved not managed
Begin living in harmony instead of inner conflict
Stop coping, performing, and pretending and start living aligned, clear, and grounded.
Love
Manna