The Hidden Childhood Stories Running Your Adult Relationship

What if everything you call “relationship problems” isn’t about communication, compatibility, or chemistry at all?

I joined Mike and Amy from the Thrive Again Relationship Podcast this week for an unfiltered conversation about what really creates stuckness, triggers, and intimacy blocks between partners who genuinely love each other.

We covered:

Trauma redefined – Not the big dramatic events, but the meaning a child gave to tiny moments that silently scripts decades of rejection fear, people-pleasing, or avoidance

Identities in collision – How the “nice guy,” over-functioner, or independent partner are rarely character flaws, but brilliant survival strategies from old wounds

Intimacy truth – Why mismatched libidos often mask deeper stories about control, safety, giving vs receiving, and unconscious power plays

Triggers decoded – You’re not reacting to your partner. Your mind is protecting an identity they accidentally threaten

The Past illusion – Why digging through timelines isn’t healing, and how change happens when you make a different choice right now

Relationship reframe –Seeing two sovereign minds dancing (not two broken people) + how your energy literally shapes if your partner shows up as “magic” or “miserable”

This wasn’t theory.

These were real client stories – the HR director whose fear of irrelevance came from childhood poverty, the man vowing “I’ll never leave” after watching his parents split, the woman whose intimacy became control after watching family dynamics.

If you and your partner:

✅ Keep having the same fight in different outfits

✅ Love each other but feel mismatched or blocked

✅ Wonder why “nice” partners create the most resentment

✅ Feel triggered by things that “shouldn’t” bother you

This 45-minute conversation will give you a completely new lens.

🎧 Listen now: https://open.spotify.com/episode/6sIETRgkSXoBfeYFpKA1gv?si=GhroW5uvQhS4Bqv3X4_0_w

The shift from blaming each other to understanding minds at play changes everything.

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Love & Lead Life with Fearless Inner Peace

Manna

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