Are you trauma bonded?
Here are the 6 common reasons why people bond
Common Interests such as music, nature or sport
Past Experiences – good, bad & ugly
Cultural, social or academic backgrounds & similarities
Ideas about the future and vision
Current life situations or challenges
Dependencies – Physical, Emotional & Financial
The above 6 reasons for bonding are social reasons for connection, then what can possibly make all or any of them trauma bonding?
Here are the 6 less talked reasons that can make seemingly normal bonding, trauma bonding
Fear of future or fear of lack
Idea to fix others or solve others’ problems to feel belonged or to avoid feeling abandoned
Inability to connect, socialise or be yourself with strong, inquisitive or logical minds
Aversion towards weakness or emotional minds
Fear of authority or inability to adapt to change and diversity
Feeling of helplessness and fear of being alone
Trauma is a great driver which pushes you to success or stability without feeling the need for so called social skills, trust or bonding.
Choice and decision are involuntary skills when you are on the edge and fighting for your survival.
But when that’s over:
Are you equipped to live and motivate yourself with choice and independent decision making
Are you equipped to lead your life for YOU
That’s the point when you struggle leaving behind those trauma bonds – with your parents, partners, families, past or communities and you believe you had enough..
because you never had the opportunity to learn to exercise choice or take decision at peace.
If you are feeling this way, this is not the end 
It’s the beginning and an opportunity for a brand new “YOU”
You are not alone
Love
Manna 