If you are a giver and lately you’ve been wondering if you might be too much of a giver, this is for you.
A giver is someone who shows up, supports, and offers help even before being asked. You give generously, instinctively, and often quietly. But there’s a pattern I want to invite you to notice.
Most givers struggle to receive.
And that struggle usually comes from three places.
First, you’ve tied your worth to giving.
Receiving feels uncomfortable because, deep down, you fear that if you stop giving, you won’t be valuable anymore. Your sense of worth has become conditional earned through effort, service, and sacrifice.
Second, you overcompensate.
Because you don’t fully believe you’re worthy just as you are, you give more than is asked. You give to prove you deserve a place, connection, or belonging. And over time, that generosity turns into a quiet exhaustion.
Third, you don’t have a clear strategy for when to give and how much to give.
Without boundaries, the “giver” identity takes over. Giving stops being a choice and becomes a compulsion and that’s where it turns into a roadblock.
So here’s the practice I want to invite you into:
Pause your giving.
Not forever – just long enough to experiment with receiving.
Receive without rushing to give back.
Receive without turning it into a transaction.
Receive without feeling compelled to earn it.
As you do, notice your inner dialogue. Gently ask yourself:
What am I afraid will happen if I receive?
What am I avoiding by always giving?
These questions will reveal blind spots you didn’t even know were there. And from that awareness, something shifts.
You don’t stop being a giver.
You become a balanced one.
Lead with Fearless Inner Peace
Manna