Why You Are Single

Why You Are Single?

Do you know the one roadblock that stops any individual from moving forward after healing and resolving past traumatic memories?

“Not knowing how to re-engage in life with the new trauma-free identity”

Grace spent 20 years of her life reliving the past traumatic experience of being physically abused.

She masked her emotions and desires for a meaningful relationship in the name of strong individuality and independence.

Why You Are Single?


Deep inside, she is longing for a loving partner but her mask was not allowing her to reveal the woman in her and she was not allowing any relationship to materialise.

Of course, that is not intentional. But the game of in & out was on because Grace did not want someone to see her broken self and in the same breath did not want to be broken again by another man.

Can you see the conundrum?

Grace took my help, and today she is living free from her past traumatic memories and triggers and has re-engaged with the world with the new identity of a loving woman who is courageous enough to be vulnerable and embrace life as it happens.

What a shift!

If you are in a similar boat to Grace sabotaging your relationships and stopping yourself from resolving the past trauma or abuse, this is for you:

Kintsugi (金継ぎ) is a traditional Japanese art of repairing broken pottery with a lacquer mixed with gold, silver, or platinum powder.

The word “kintsugi” literally means “golden joinery” or “golden repair” in Japanese.

Rather than trying to hide the cracks or flaws in the pottery, kintsugi embraces them as part of the object’s history and beauty. Repaired pottery is often considered even more valuable and beautiful than the original because of the visible repairs and the symbolic significance of the process.

Kintsugi is not only an art form but also a philosophy that emphasises the beauty of imperfection, resilience, and the acceptance of change and impermanence.

Like broken pottery, survivors of sexual abuse may feel broken and damaged by their experiences. The abuse may leave them with emotional and psychological scars that can be difficult to heal.

However, like kintsugi, the healing process can involve recognising beauty in imperfection and embracing the journey of repair.

Just as the repaired pottery is often considered more valuable and beautiful than the original, you too can find a sense of strength and resilience through healing. You can learn to value yourself and your experiences in a new way, and find a new sense of purpose and meaning in life.

Love & Healing


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