The 6 common confused thoughts of an efficient individual who experienced trauma 🚩
It hits men, women & children equally..irrespective of academic, cultural and socioeconomic backgrounds..
😐1. I must be a bad person. Why else would he/she they do this to me⁉️
😐2. I want good things to happen to me BUT do I deserve bad things⁉️
😐3. I didn’t stand up for myself. Did I want that to happen?
😐4. My mother/father didn’t support me. Am I not lovable ⁉️
😐5. Should I fight for my voice to be heard or should I be quiet ⁉️
😐6. Should I be ugly, poor & quiet, so no one notices me⁉️
And the 6 most common trauma responses and identities as a result:
💭 1. I will prove that I am a good person – people pleaser, kind & compassionate, fear of authority & conflict.
💭2. I am destined to fail or suffer – Self sabotage, hiding as a giver, pretending to be weak in order to receive
💭3. I will protect others – Fight for justice and fairness, protector and rescuer
💭4. No one can love me or protect me – Extreme independence, self sufficiency and achiever, Control
💭5. I will voice my views or I will become the voice for others – Extreme empathy, kindness or a fighting spirit/sarcasm
💭6. I will stay behind the scenes- Low personal standards, toxic partners, fear of being alone, self loathing/harming
If any of the above are the thoughts in your head or you said yes, reach out and seek support..
If this resonates with you or you want to live a life with freedom and Inner peace, take the decision.
For your healing
Manna 🙏