Coaching a client who is not sure how many more months or days left for her on this planet earth left me to ponder what is motivating her to seek
Her response “I would like to let go anger and accept me as who I am and not who I thought everyone wanted me to be”
She acknowledged that she always identified herself as a man right from her teenage and is forced by her own conditioning and the society’s to live the so called normal life of getting married, being a good wife, kids, family, friends and so on.
Is it too late? Perhaps Yes, it is too late.
What can I tell her. To be detached and talk about suffering as part of the life?
And then it struck me, love and detachment are two extreme polarities and both can lead us to where we want to be.
Why are we so attached to the so called label of spirituality, equanimity and detachment?
Instead, can you love your life so much that good and bad, suffering and joy – they are part of your life.
Love your LIFE not people, unconditionally.
Then I came across this word “Amor Fati” which means love of fate and it goes like this:
“Amor fati- used to describe an attitude in which one sees everything that happens in one’s life, including suffering and loss, as good or, at the very least, necessary”
How true!! You don’t have to be religious or spiritual to embrace life fully.
Just be human and beyond.
Take a moment now and ask yourself “ What am I choosing to be because of what I think others want me to be instead of what I want to be?”
“My formula for greatness in a human being is amor fati: that one wants nothing to be different, not forward, not backward, not in all eternity. Not
merely bear what is necessary, still less conceal it—all idealism is mendacity in the face of what is necessary—but love it” – Friedrich Nietzsche