Are you trauma bonded?
Here are the 6 common reasons why people bond👇
🎶 Common Interests such as music, nature or sport
👣 Past Experiences – good, bad & ugly
👥 Cultural, social or academic backgrounds & similarities
💭 Ideas about the future and vision
🙇 Current life situations or challenges
👥 Dependencies – Physical, Emotional & Financial
The above 6 reasons for bonding are social reasons for connection, then what can possibly make all or any of them trauma bonding?
Here are the 6 less talked reasons that can make seemingly normal bonding, trauma bonding👇
🚩Fear of future or fear of lack
🚩Idea to fix others or solve others’ problems to feel belonged or to avoid feeling abandoned
🚩Inability to connect, socialise or be yourself with strong, inquisitive or logical minds
🚩Aversion towards weakness or emotional minds
🚩 Fear of authority or inability to adapt to change and diversity
🚩 Feeling of helplessness and fear of being alone
Trauma is a great driver which pushes you to success or stability without feeling the need for so called social skills, trust or bonding.
Choice and decision are involuntary skills when you are on the edge and fighting for your survival.
But when that’s over:💣
Are you equipped to live and motivate yourself with choice and independent decision making⁉️
Are you equipped to lead your life for YOU⁉️
That’s the point when you struggle leaving behind those trauma bonds – with your parents, partners, families, past or communities and you believe you had enough.. 💭
because you never had the opportunity to learn to exercise choice or take decision at peace.
If you are feeling this way, this is not the end 🧡
It’s the beginning and an opportunity for a brand new “YOU”
You are not alone 👣👣
Love
Manna 🙏