I hope you have started acknowledging the little kindness in the way other people like to be acknowledged and not how you like to?
A smile or gazing into someone’s eyes can go a long way to having a stronger connection with people, it’s simple and it works like magic.
So, today I wanted to talk about clutter inside and outside your home.
Last week, I visited a friend in the hospital. She was bedridden with an injury for the last 8 weeks.
She was unable to move her right hand, yet I found her bed, shelf and things around so neatly organised.
I looked around and at the other people in the ward to see if the staff were keeping everything neat and tidy. The other beds, table, shelves etc were cluttered and not well organised like my friend.
How did this lady who cannot even move her hand be so neat and others so messy?
As a neurolinguistics trainer, I understand everybody’s representational systems are different. For example, visual people like to see order in their environment and kinaesthetic people value the comfort of their environment.
However, as I looked around, it dawned on me that this wasn’t the case and it’s the clutter in the mind that results in clutter around you.
In 2011, neuroscience researchers using FMRI (functional magnetic resonance imaging) and other physiological measurements found clearing clutter from the home and work environment resulted in a better ability to focus and process information, as well as increased productivity.
Clutter might also have implications for our relationships with those around us. A 2016 US study, for instance, found background clutter resulted in participants being less able to correctly interpret the emotional expressions on the faces of characters in a movie.
But clutter isn’t always bad. One study showed messy desks can make us more creative. The findings suggested neat, ordered environments make us more likely to conform to expectations and play it safe, while messy ones move us to break with the norm and look at things in a new way.
There is no right or wrong and my friend never conformed to expectations either.
But mindfulness does not have to be meditation. It can be clean homes and surroundings too.
Think about this, even if you have a clean home, a messy drawer is something you’ve put off and don’t want to deal with until later.
It’s the same with your mind. Sometimes there’s a drawer with all the emotional baggage you don’t want to deal with, so you keep it out of sight. Maybe you even look in there sometimes, but it seems too big of a task to clean it or deal with it. So you promise yourself you will do it later when you have the time or energy to.
Take care of the environment by taking care of your mind and take care of your mind by taking care of your environment.
Begin with YOU.
Manna (clearing emotional baggage) Abraham
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