Somewhere along the way, “rewiring the subconscious” became the holy grail. Regulate the nervous system. Revisit the trauma. Reprocess the story. Again. And again. And again. And now we have people in therapy for 5… 8… 12 years. Still triggered. Still circling the same patterns. Here’s what no one wants to say: You can’t heal […]
If you are a coach, healer, therapist, or someone deeply immersed in nervous system work, this might challenge you. The wellness industry sold you nervous system regulation. And don’t get me wrong – it’s powerful. It helps when emotions feel overwhelming. It brings you back to safety. It prevents spirals. It builds capacity. But here’s
You don’t have to be happy. Let me share why. Long ago, I read something that stayed with me. It said that the inner stillness you experience—both in good times and in turbulent times—is the presence of spirit… or God… or whatever name feels right to you. Not excitement. Not positivity. Stillness. Roy Masters, who
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Seeking the purpose of life is like wearing green-coloured glasses and designing your entire world to match the colour green. And one day, when you remove those glasses, you realise you spent your whole life perfecting the wrong colour, while the true colour was something else altogether. I was reflecting on this same question. Service.
You’re hitting your targets. You’re seen as “reliable.” But somehow, the opportunities keep going to someone else. In corporate environments, this is rarely about capability. It’s about something subtler running in the background: Saying yes when you want to say no, then resenting the workload Playing small in meetings, then wondering why you were overlooked
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Understanding Anger as Power, Not a Problem In this week’s Inner Circle conversation, we spent time with an emotion many of us were taught to avoid. “Anger” The space opened with a simple, honest exploration. Is it healthier to feel anger or sadness? What emerged was not a debate, but a recognition. Anger and sadness
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Why Trauma Healing Needs Access, Not More Understanding What if the missing piece in trauma-informed work is not awareness, but access something you can actually feel and sustain in your body? Many high performers understand trauma intellectually. They can name emotional triggers, speak about emotional regulation, and recognize their patterns. Yet they still struggle
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A Life Without Triggers: When Ease Becomes Your Natural State Imagine a life without triggers. A life where ease is not something you chase, manage, or earn, but something that exists as your natural state. This is not a theory. I witness it every day. People who have suffered for decades. People who
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Imagine a life without triggers. A life where ease is not something you chase, but your natural state. I see this every day. People who have suffered and felt stuck for decades releasing it in hours. When I experienced this myself, the first question that arose was, “What was I doing all these years?” When all
If you’ve been stuck for months or years in trauma, relationships or career, here’s what’s rarely said: the issue isn’t your thoughts. It’s not that you need more rewiring, healing, or techniques. The mind is not the source. It’s a reactive system. It organises experience based on the state of consciousness you’re living from, which is
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